I'm so pleased to introduce my friend Michelle Daugharthy to you. Michelle is a beautiful person inside and out. She has allowed God to take her mess and create a beautiful masterpiece from her life. She is a wonderful wife, mother, and actress! She acts in commercials and small films AND she writes! Enjoy this piece of wisdom that she has written for us.
I am going to say something that may sound counter-intuitive.
There is FREEDOM walking in obedience.
We were actually created this way. We crave safe boundaries; it creates security. A child will continue to push against any boundary you put in place to see if you really care enough to mean it.
“Yes! If you don’t play in the street, then you are FREE to stay alive! That is how much I love you!”
“Yes! If you are home by curfew and do not go to your boyfriend’s house alone, then you are FREE to not be burdened with the guilt that weighs from sexual sin! That’s how much I love you!” We can often fear that if we agree to walk in obedience to the Lord, He will ask us to give up something we love or do something really hard.
And He might. BUT, trust me, if He asks you to give it up, it is because there is something better in store!
A few years after my divorce, I was dating a man long distance for almost two years. It was a challenging relationship. He was a good, Christian man, but had some deep struggles with being OCD and over-critical that were less than life-giving in our relationship. We broke up a few times, and each time I felt like we were supposed to get back together. He had so many of the qualities I longed for in a husband.
The thing is, he had a reeeeaaallly hard time committing to marriage because he was afraid he would regret his choice later. I always went back and just tried to “work harder” on our relationship. The deeply implanted wounds and issues were not healed, and things got very bleak and hard again.
When I was praying about what to do, I felt the Lord ask me, “If you knew I had something better for you around the corner, would you give him up?” I actually did not have to think too long…”Yes, Lord. I will do that and trust you.”
So I broke it off for good. He pleaded and pleaded with me to give him another chance, but I calmly held my ground. It was hard. I gave something up I really wanted. And it hurt. But I also felt peace in the midst of that because I knew I obeyed God. I felt more free out of that relationship! I was even able to get to a place of being ok if I did not get married again because I knew the Lord was enough and He was taking care of me. Six months later, I met a man whom I was pretty smitten with right away.
Friends, God is SO good.
He knew what I needed in a mate, and I believe He had this man in mind for me. (God just had to perform a minor miracle and move him back to our city!) Long story short, we married about 2 years after we met. Now we have been married almost 9 years and have added two kids to our family, in addition to my daughter I have from my previous marriage. Is it perfect? No. Do we sometimes struggle? Yes. But it is GOOD. So good. And don’t we all want what is good, the best for us?
God is a good father and knows how to give good gifts – the best gifts!
That is what He loves to do! In fact, His word tells us how He likes to give gifts: “ …which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!” (Matthew 7:9-11.)
Freedom does not mean just getting to do what we want. Freedom is defined as the state of being at liberty rather than in confinement. Friends, sin leads to confinement, to bondage….to slavery. Obedience is for our protection, and for our promise for freedom!
Walking in obedience to God will always lead to greater joy, peace, and freedom! Will you follow and obey Him today?