I have a secret to share with all of the little girls who never had a real father. Or maybe your dad was an absent dad and didn’t know how to give you what you needed. Possibly your dad was a GREAT dad and he has died and is no longer around… I have a secret that you need to know!
Every little girl needs to be told she’s beautiful by her daddy. Every little girl needs to feel protected and provided for by a father who is trustworthy.
The Kingdom of God was structured on the foundation of family. When part of our foundation is missing, it causes us to feel insecure and inferior.
I felt like this. I was insecure and inferior after my dad abandoned my brother and me. I felt like I had no identity.
Did you know that our identity is established by our fathers? (Read more here)
I lived for many years with my feet on the sand. I didn’t really know who I was and I didn’t feel safe. I had no value. It’s really hard to stand tall in shifting sand. The enemy would whisper in my ear, and it would knock me off balance. He would whisper, “God’s going to leave you at any moment. God is cold and distant. He’s too busy for you.”
These lies made me feel that God was not trustworthy. He was not dependable. But I was vulnerable to believing these lies because of the sins that my father committed against me.
You see, I found a secret.
The secret is this: Our Heavenly Father is a much better father than our earthly one.
We must renounce all lies that Father God is like our earthly father… because He is not. He is not cold and distant. He is not harsh. He will never leave us or forsake us. He has unlimited money, unlimited time and He is the biggest dad on the block!
Even if you think your dad was perfect and gave you everything you need. You still have a better Father in God.
Think of the most perfect father you can imagine. A dad who loved you with every fiber of his being. He was always around when you needed him. He provided you with whatever you needed - money, a roof over your head, a shoulder to cry on, wise counsel to help with decisions. He gave you verbal affirmation. He called you beautiful and meant it. The perfect father was always patient, and his love was unconditional, but he always insisted on you doing your best.
If you can imagine the perfect earthly father how much better can our perfect Heavenly Father be?
He actually knows what we need before we need it. He is a better provider than any earthly provider. He is unconditional in His love for us but also disciplines us when we need it. He is more patient than any earthly father could be. He knows you inside and out because He created you. He knows your past, and He knows your future. He knows exactly what makes you tick!
Your Heavenly Father is available to you 24 hours a day 7 days a week! No earthly father can compete with that.
When I started to turn my eyes towards my Heavenly Father to meet my every need, there was a deep hole in my soul that began to be filled. When I needed a hug, I would ask Him for one. God would answer that prayer by sometimes having another person unexpectedly give me a hug – or sometimes He would fulfill my request by letting me feel the heaviness of His presence.
When I began to turn toward my Heavenly Father for my identity instead of looking elsewhere for it, I began to feel more secure. He told me I was beautiful. He said that He was pleased. He told me that I had great value to Him and that He wanted me to obey Him so that I could complete the story He had written for my life. He told me that no one could take away my identity unless I allowed them to.
When I turned toward my Heavenly Father for provision, I started to feel a much deeper peace because my GREAT BIG God was in charge of my finances. He sees everything and knows what I need and what I want. He is a generous Father and wants to spoil me sometimes.
When I stopped believing the lies that the enemy was whispering in my ears and started believing that my Heavenly Father could be a better dad to me than my earthly one, it was then that my feet were planted on the Rock.
When my feet were on the sand, I was a slave to fear and anxiety. There is no need to feel this fear because I am a child of God and He is the Rock.
When my foundation is secure in this truth, I can straighten my crown and BELIEVE that my Dad is the King and I am His Princess!
Steps to Wholeness:
1) Forgive your earthly father for everything you can think of. Specifically forgive him for not giving you identity, provision, or protection.
2) Then renounce this lie: I renounce the lie that You Father God are like my earthly father.
3) Pray: Father God are there any lies I’m believing about You? (listen quietly for the voice of the Lord.)
4) Renounce the lie by saying out loud: I renounce the lie that ________.
“I renounce the lie that You Father God are cold and distant.”
5) Ask: Father God what is Your truth?
6) Declare the truth out loud.
I declare the truth that You love me and want to hold me like a father holds his child.
7) Repeat steps 3 through 6 until there are no more lies you are believing.
RECORD this conversation on paper so that you can go back and review it later. After getting a revelation of the truth you’ll need to go back and begin renewing your mind with this new truth!