The Root of Panic Attacks and How to Overcome Them

Panic attacks are one of the devil’s most disturbing strategies to devour God’s people.

I have experienced two panic attacks in my life. They were so terribly overwhelming.  The circumstances surrounding both of them were similar.  I was in extremely stressful life situations.  The enemy knew exactly how to use fear to overwhelm me in order to make paralyze me from moving forward.

The enemy used amplified lies to overcome me and I felt like I was in a prison that could not be escaped from.  It was like my mind knew they weren’t true but my heart was in such fear logic would not work to extinguish the fiery darts.

The lies in both of my panic attacks were essentially the same.  “There is no escape from this.  Nothing will ever change.  There is no hope for you.”

You see the devil waited for the ripe situation in my life to unload a dump truck of lies on me.  It was a truck load of fear that felt very real.

1 Peter 5:8 ‘Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.’ 

The enemy devoured me with His lies.  For a few hours anyway.  I cried out to the Lord and He saved me.  It was a little different path to deliverance each time but the truth of the Lord poked through my very dark storm and my logical mind returned to keep me from falling back into the storm.

The other day a friend was in a terrible panic attack and I used the things that I had learned from my own to help her out of her storm.  I want to share them with you – so it might help you if the enemy tries to overwhelm you in a prison of fear.



Don’t do it alone.  Don’t let shame keep you from asking.  Ask others for prayer support!



Remember even though it feels very real – it is not!  You have authority over ALL of the works of the devil.  Take authority over fear!  And take authority over insanity!  They do not have a right to attack you.  “

In the name of Jesus I take authority over the spirit of fear and the spirit of insanity.  I plead the blood of Jesus over myself and I command you to go to the feet of Jesus!”



When you worship the Lord you tie the hands of the devil.  He HATES worship.  You poke the devil in the eye when you worship the Lord in the midst of an attack.  Use the weapon of worship until the attack passes.

(Read more about using Worship in warfare here.)



There is always a root lie that the devil use in a panic attack.  With me, the lie was there is no hope.  It came from a traumatic event in my childhood that made me feel powerless.  With my friend, the lie was that there was too much to do and she was incapable of doing it so she felt like she was in a prison and there was no way out.  After some prayer, we found that the root of her lie came from a teacher in elementary school who told her she would never amount to anything and that she was incapable of learning.

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you the root of the lie that the enemy is using.  Make sure the enemy doesn’t trip you up by making you cut off a branch.  The goal is to get to the root and pull out the lie.

My friend kept saying, “It’s my fault.  I’m the one who tells myself I’m not good enough.”  But I knew that wasn’t true.  Someone had to plant that lie in her.  Her parents were loving and caring people – so I knew it wouldn’t have come from them.  We just kept praying until we had peace when the Holy Spirit showed her that it was her fourth grade teacher and she could hear the lie coming from her. 

Once you find the root lie – use the following emotional healing tool to pull it out:

Uprooting LIES

Matthew 15:13

He replied, "Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots.


1) When you find the lie - renounce the lie out loud:  I renounce the lie that ________.

For example: “I renounce the lie that You Father God are cold and distant.”

2) Then ask:  Father God what is Your truth? (Be still and listen quietly for the still small voice of the Lord.)

3) When you hear the truth from the Holy Spirit - Declare the truth out loud.

For example:  I declare the truth that You love me and want to hold me like a father holds his child.

4) RECORD this conversation on paper so you can go back and review it later.  After getting a revelation of the truth we MUST go back and begin renewing our minds with this new truth! 

This kind of praying loosens the enemy away from you – so it is important to seal up any kind of prayers. 

Use the Sealing Up Prayer found by clicking here.

PS.  If panic attacks are generational use this tool to break off the generational sins of fear and insanity!  

(Click Here)

The Wisdom of Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties With Your Parents

This might seem like a strange idea to some, but I want to show you the wisdom behind breaking ungodly soul ties with your parents.

Each and every person on the planet has soul ties with our parents.  It doesn’t matter if they were birth parents, step parents, adoptive parents or even foster parents.  (You can include parental figures in this as well.)  Our souls are “tied” to those who gave us life and those who raised us.

A soul tie is a spiritual connection with another human being.  A soul tie can be healthy or unhealthy.  There are certainly healthy, Godly soul ties we have with those who gave us life and raised us.  And I am not addressing these good spiritual connections.

However since none of us are perfect, you can be sure that somewhere along the way there have been some unhealthy/ungodly soul ties between parents and children.

I remember a “sermonette” one of my friends gave at her son’s wedding.  She used handcuffs as a prophetic picture.  She said when her son was a baby she was handcuffed to him to meet his needs like keeping him fed and changing his diapers.  When he was a child – he would wander away in the store or he would maybe want to run in a parking lot and she said her relationship with him was like handcuffing him to her to keep him safe.  It was the same way when he became older.  She put handcuffs on him as a teenager to keep him safe, maybe those handcuffs were cell phone monitoring or a curfew on weekends.  But she said, now that he is getting married she was taking off the handcuffs and handing them over to the two of them – to her son and his wife-- because now they were to cleave to each other.

This is a loose picture of what soul ties are.  There are healthy ones that keep us safe.  But the unhealthy ones are intrusive.  The soul ties my friend had with her son would have become unhealthy if she tried to have a say in her son’s marriage.

When praying with adults and having them break ungodly soul ties with their parents, one of the things I find is that men feel freer to be ONE with their wives.  It’s like cutting off the unhealthy soul ties with their parents gives men permission to cleave to their wife.  It edges the parents out of the decision making and allows the proper relationship between husband and wife to flow.

When women break ungodly soul ties with their parents, I have seen them blossom into confident women who don’t feel that they have to measure up to the rules and regulations that the mother has set forth for them.  I am not talking about the godly soul ties.  I am not talking about the Godly wisdom given from their mothers… I am talking about the soul ties where women feel controlled by the previous generation and are expected to “measure up.”

My sons are teenagers and I have had them break off ungodly soul ties with my husband and myself.  After I took my oldest son through the prayer for “Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties” he said that some “fog” in his mind cleared up.  I felt that the result of him breaking these soul ties with us cleared up some “confusion” we had caused him.  As a first child, I am sure we created some confusion in him as we stumbled through those first few years of being parents and communicating where the boundary lines were for him.

My second son said that after he prayed the prayer that he felt lighter.  I would assume too, that we had put some undue pressure on him and breaking off those ungodly soul ties with us allowed him to set aside some of the “expectations” he felt from us.

Try praying through this prayer for yourself.  Remember you are not doing any harm. You are not addressing any healthy soul ties – only the ungodly ones.  By praying this way, you can let the Lord decide which soul ties are healthy and which are not.  See if you don’t feel some relief yourself…

Steps to Wholeness:

1.  Lord I forgive my parents.

2.  I sever ungodly influence and ungodly soul ties from them.

3.  I give back to my parents the things that belong to them.

4.  I take back the things that belong to me.

5.  I wash them in the blood of Jesus.

6.  I pray that You would remove all faulty wiring from my mind.

7.  I ask You to replace it with the wiring of the Holy Spirit according to the Kingdom of Heaven.

8.  I ask You God to give me my soul back in the name of Jesus.

(Further Steps:  You can break ungodly soul ties with anyone in your past.  Here are a few more that might be helpful: 








Anyone you had a sexual relationship with

Since breaking soul ties is essentially doing spiritual warfare – I suggest praying the sealing up prayer afterwards to make sure there is no spiritual backlash. 

You can find that prayer by clicking HERE.

Four Responses to Pain that Prolong Suffering

Through our discipleship and deliverance ministries we have dealt with unimaginable trauma imposed on people in this darkened world.  From the most terrible of traumatic events like rape and abuse to more seemingly benign trauma like a father or mother rejecting their child with reckless words.

Whether we humanly define these traumatic events as terrible or benign – the enemy can twist a rather small incident and cripple a person for life if the pain is not dealt with in a way that sets the person free.  Abuse puts a person in a spiritual prison.  Painful words blind a person from the truth.  A spirit of rejection can cause a person to never grow past a certain point, because their spirit is trapped on the timeline of their life where the traumatic event occurred.

Jesus came to undo all of our pain and suffering.

In Luke 4:18-21, Jesus was at the synagogue and took a turn reading the days scripture.  He read from Isaiah 61.  He proclaimed that day that He was the fulfillment of the promise the Father made to Israel.

The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor." Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him, and he began by saying to them, "Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing." 

Freedom for prisoners, recovery of sight for the blind, releasing the oppressed…  Jesus came not only to save us but also to heal us AND set us free!

Joyce Meyer sums it up like this, “Jesus can heal you EVERYWHERE you hurt!”

I have seen a lot over the past ten years of helping others to freedom.  I have heard the absolutely unmentionable, detestable things that human beings can do to one another.  Instead of someone helping them with the pain in order to set them free the enemy has come behind a traumatic event and twisted it up in knots.  It’s like the devil will take a person who has been tortured and adds to the pain by putting them in a prison cell in their minds complete with shackles and a ball and chain.

We must be careful to not respond in negative ways to pain.  As humans we have a tendency to want to escape pain at all costs – which plays right into the devil’s hands.   We have a choice to run TO God or AWAY from God. 

These wrong responses to pain are the same as running away from God and will prolong your suffering:

1. Erecting Walls Around Our Hearts for Protection
When we erect walls around our hearts, we cut ourselves off not only from the people who hurt us but we unknowingly cut ourselves off from God.  Many, many times God cannot get healing to our broken hearts because we have built a wall thinking it is saving us from pain.  It’s like getting shot with a bullet of pain and then putting up a wall over the wound pretending that the wall is going to protect you.  In reality what happens when you build a wall, is that you keep away the Doctor (Jesus) from helping you heal.
Instead of building walls, we must wear our armor.  Read more about this by clicking HERE.

2. Self-imposed Rules to Keep Suffering from Happening
Sometimes a response to pain can be an inner vow.  
I will NEVER be like my mother/father.  This vow ends up being a prison because you spend all of your time trying not to be that person.
No one will EVER treat me like that again. This vow is a prison because you will constantly be on guard against people who may or may not hurt you.  There is no intimacy because there are bars between you and people.  Many times we will literally give rules to people about how they can or cannot interact with us.
I vow that I will accomplish a goal. (money, fame, beauty, “Barbie Dream House”)  This vow is incredibly limiting because it is a self-imposed goal that one accomplishes through their own strength and might and not by the Spirit of God (Zech 4:6). The person with this kind of goal actually serves the personal GOAL instead of God’s plan for their lives.  ALL because we are trying to avoid pain by following self-imposed rules – instead of dealing with the true root issue of the suffering.

The reason we respond to pain with self-imposed rules is because we feel powerless against something.  When we feel powerless the answer is NEVER to put rules in place.  This kind of response is rooted in a spirit of "control."  The answer to feeling powerless is rooted in the truth that no one can take your power if that power comes from Christ.   Find out how to overcome the feeling of powerlessness HERE.

3. Denial
Denial that a traumatic event happened is all too common.  The mind protects itself by lying to the heart.  The lies sound something like this:  That wasn’t me.  It didn’t really happen to me.  I am not that person.

Denial that a traumatic event happened creates a separation from one’s timeline.  It creates a fork in the road of the true timeline and the alter-reality in the person’s mind.  In the defense mechanism of Denial, the truth about what happened is rejected, while a lie replaces the truth causing a disconnect from one’s real emotions.  True healing cannot happen in a person who won’t confront the truth...because it is the Truth that sets us free.

Denial, when used over and over again, can lead to sociopath behavior.  When a person is a sociopath – they cannot empathize with the pain of others and usually have to pretend to live their lives.  They spend most of their life acting out a role instead of living their life.

Denial is also the path that the enemy uses to twist people into multiple personalities.  When trauma happens, a person can be in denial and create an alternate personality to handle each traumatic event.

When people walk in the truth of the trauma and allow Jesus to bring comfort, healing and His truth to traumatic event, one can walk through some pretty intense suffering, process it, then come out with no wounds. 

Isaiah 53:4-5 Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.

If you feel that you might be in Denial about some of your pain.  We find this tool called “Presenting Jesus” very helpful. (Click HERE)  When Jesus is introduced into a trauma and His truth is revealed – the emotional pain from the trauma can be calmed. The end result is a benign memory with no pain attached to it.

4. Numbing Our Pain
The final response that can cause a delay in healing is by numbing our pain with “drugs.”  Anything can be used as a drug, sex, tv, food, drugs, alcohol, control etc.  All of these things are used to medicate our pain instead of processing it.

When we use “drugs” to numb our pain we are essentially guilty of idolatry.  We are going to idols to help fix our pain and not straight to the throne of God.

It is the truth that sets us free.  Idols of comfort will never bring about true healing.  They will simply prolong the suffering.  Addiction to anything puts us in a cycle of codependency because we are not depending on God.

If you are medicating your pain with idols of drug, sex, food and so on find out how to take the idol off of the throne and go HERE to put Jesus back on it.

The main thing to keep in mind when suffering or trauma come is DEAL WITH IT!  Process it!

Face it! – acknowledge there is pain.
Erase it! – ask God to be set free from the pain.
Replace it! – replace it with the Truth God reveals to you.

This process will lead to a much healthier life, a much healthier family, and a much healthier relationship with God.  Learn more about processing your pain HERE.

Attention Intercessors: Are You Tired of Spiritual Backlash? Seal Up Your Prayers!!

I remember when I first began to do intercessory warfare.  I would rise up in my prayer time and use my sword to war against the enemy.  I would use the word of God.  I would declare and decree  I would tell the mountain to move!  

And I would see answers to my prayers... but I would also feel BACKLASH.

I would feel a few days of spiritual warfare after a prayer session... I would maybe get into a fight with my husband.  Sometimes I would get really impatient. Other times I would get sick or depressed. There were times my electronic devices would stop working or I might have a fender bender.  Spiritual backlash would bring frustration to my life.  It would sometimes cause me to lose my peace of mind.  Or it would cost me financially.  

The Holy Spirit was gracious to us and began to teach us about sealing up our prayers.  He made clear to us through a few dreams, sermons and "downloads" that it was OUR responsibility to seal it up and basically "lock the doors behind us" after we prayed.  It was not an automatic benefit after praying.  It HAD to be done by the intercessors.


we do Spiritual Warfare at Tisha Sledd Ministries we seal it up by praying this prayer.

We have found it to be invaluable in keeping us safe from the backlash that comes from messing with the devil and his kingdom.

When we pass it out to people at seminars we tell them it is a piece of spiritual gold.  We have paid a high price to understand this "sealing up" strategy.  Every time we were attacked after praying through spiritual warfare, we sought the Holy Spirit about how to protect ourselves from the backlash next time.  This is the list of what the Holy Spirit taught us to do.

Our recommendation is to pray ALL of it EVERY SINGLE TIME you do Spiritual Warfare - even if it is a little thing.  You will save yourself a lot of pain and spiritual attacks by praying this prayer. (We keep a copy on our phones so we have it with us at all times.)

We are happy to share our piece of gold with you.

  1. We establish everything we just prayed through by the blood of Jesus Christ. We seal it up like a Ziploc bag. Nothing can be taken from what we just did. Lord send your Angels to protect the land we just took from the enemy. (1 Peter 3:22)

  2. We pray that all demonic debris would be swept up to the feet of Jesus Christ. (Matthew 8:31 - if Jesus can tell them where to go so can we.)

  3. We pray that LIFE would inhabit every place that was just uprooted. (1 John 5:16, Matthew 15:13)

  4. We come against demonic rulers, authorities, powers, and evil spirits along with their along with all their works, roots, fruits, tentacles and links. (Eph 6:12)

  5. We pray for a hedge of protection by the blood of Jesus around every person involved in the warfare. We pray a hedge around our minds, homes, families, finances, possessions, health, jobs and ministries. (Job 1:10, Ps 91)

  6. We release warring angels to go out against the backlash. (2 Kings 6:16, Daniel 10:13)

  7. We pray for a spirit of judgment and fire to come against the ‘Devourer,’ the ‘Destroyer’ and ‘Famine’ in Jesus Name! (Is. 4:4)

  8. We declare that we are hidden in you and that our exploits will not be recorded in hell. (Psalm 143:9)

  9. We pray for prosperity and increase in every way over our lives. (3 John 1:2)

Overcoming Religious Spirits

Many times on our journey up this mountain of life, there will be 'keepers of the veil' who do not want you to climb any further.  They are usually men and women who feel that they are doing the Lord's work by keeping the Lord's people in line.

I have certainly hit this veil in climbing up the mountain of maturity.  I have had men and women tell me to stop going the direction that I am going even though I KNEW God had put me on the path of Church leadership.  I have had people tell me that as a woman I must serve my husband’s call instead of having a call myself.  I also have been called unsubmissive more times than I can count… though the name callers have no idea about my true character.

A religious/conform spirit will want you to fit into their mold of what they think you should be. They require that you submit to rules that are outside of Scripture.  Do this. Don’t do that. Eat this. Don’t eat that. Watch this. Don’t watch that.  A Religious Spirit says, “Act like this and you will be accepted.”

It is similar to the religious leaders in Jesus' time.  They hated Him for all of the miracles and 'breaking' of religious rules.  Jesus did not fit into their paradigm of what they considered a religious leader to be.  So they tried to make Him conform to their model.

Sometimes a religious spirit will feel like a glass ceiling.  Sometimes it will feel like ropes around your hands and duct tape on your mouth.  If the Lord is calling you higher, you do not have to submit to the glass ceiling or the ropes and duct tape.

You must climb God's ladder, not man's ladder.  You must speak if the Lord is telling you to speak or you will be held accountable on Judgment Day.  (Ezekiel 3 and 4)  You must also do it in gentleness and love in the hopes that your Pharisee or Sadducee will come to repentance.  We must go around the religious legalism with grace,  it should NEVER be to “stick it to your Pharisee.”

We ARE called to submit to the authority that God has put over us.  We DO have to learn to submit to wrong leadership, just as David had to submit to Saul.  But there is a point at which God releases us from an earthly king, it is the point at which they try to kill us. 

The Holy Spirit will release you from your Saul if that leader comes to the point of plundering you of your gifting or your call.  But just as David modeled, we must stay until the Holy Spirit releases us.  In the meantime, speak respectfully to the earthly king both in his presence and in public.  Remember the Lord is teaching you in the season under the religious spirit how not to be a poor king.

The only person that you must please is Jesus.  Continually ask God to judge you and ask Him to keep you on the Path of Life.

Recipe for overcoming a Religious Spirit

1.      Ask the Lord if there is a generational sin of religion in your family.  If so break the generational sin - use the tool HERE.

2.      Ask the Lord if you are guilty of having a religious spirit.  If so repent and ask God if you are believing a lie.  Renounce the lie.  Ask God for the truth. Declare the truth.

3.      Forgive the person/people who are coming against you with a religious spirit.  Ask God to bring them life. 1 John 5:16

4.      Take authority over a spirit of religion in Jesus Name.  Cast it at the feet of Jesus.  Declare a spirit of freedom.

5.      Ask the Lord if you are believing any lies that are affecting you from this spirit.  Renounce the lie.  Ask God for the truth.  Declare the truth.

Don't Build a Wall - Wear Your Armor!

Many times in mentoring/discipling men and women, we will run into a wall.  A wall is a self-devised protection around our heart intended to keep us from being harmed again.  If I were to paint a
picture, it would look like a brick wall put around a specific area of our emotions in order to keep us safe.

As we help people to mature in their faith, at times we find that they have trouble moving forward from a traumatic memory.  Sometimes forgiving people is difficult in a specific area where there has been pain. Other times a person has experienced deep rejection from someone close to them and cannot get past the rejection.

Whenever we hit this mental block, we know that a person has put up a wall of protection for some reason.  This "mental block”  or wall can keep people from attaining complete freedom.

The other night I was speaking with a woman who felt rejected by a past boyfriend.  She was having trouble hearing from the Lord.  I asked her if she had built a wall of protection around her heart to shield her from future pain.  She agreed that there was a wall she had
built after being betrayed by this man.

What we don’t understand is that when we build a wall to protect ourselves – what we are really doing is shutting down our emotions and that wall ends up separating us from part of our relationship with God.  We build walls because we don’t trust God to protect us.  So emotional walls around our heart are built on the foundation of a lie.  “God isn’t very good at protecting my heart.”

If an arrow of rejection or pain has pierced our heart, it was because we were not wearing our spiritual armor laid out for us in Ephesians 6.

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 6:14-17
Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. (feet of peace) In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. (emphasis and additions mine)

If we are wearing and using all 6 of these pieces of armor, then we are safe from the arrows of the enemy, and there is no reason to build a wall to protect ourselves.

If we LOVE the truth and have it buckled firmly around our waist, it will keep us from deception.

If we keep our hands clean and pursue holiness in all that we do, the breastplate of righteousness will protect our heart.

If we keep our “shoes of peace” on at all times no one can steal our peace from us, because the gospel (the good news) of Christ is our foundation and no one can snatch us out of His hands.

If we use our shield of faith when arrows of biting words come toward us, we will not be hit by rejection because by FAITH we know WHO we belong to.

If we keep our helmet of salvation on the tormenting thoughts of the devil cannot penetrate our minds.

If we keep the sword of the Spirit near us and use the word of God to cut down temptation of the devil in the same way that Christ did in His 40 days in the desert.  “It is written…” are very powerful words indeed!

Building a wall around our heart for protection is not a healthy way to deal with pain.  Scripture lays out for us the perfect formula to protect our hearts - we need to wear our armor!

Steps to Wholeness

If you have hit a wall in your emotions and are having trouble with getting completely free, seek the Holy Spirit and ask if you have built a wall around your heart.  If you know that there is one.  Put on the Armor of God.  Piece by piece, pray and put it on by faith. 

For instance, Father God I pray that the truth would be buckled around my waist.  I pray for the belt of truth to be buckled around my waist. I pray for the breastplate of righteousness over my chest.  I pray that the shoes of peace would be on my feet.  I pray that the shield of faith would be in one hand and the sword of the spirit would be in the other.

1.       Then with your armor on, picture the wall around your heart. 
2.       Ask the Lord if there is anyone you need to forgive. 
3.       Forgive those people.
4.       Ask the Lord for a tool to take down the wall.  (some people see a sledge hammer, some see a bull dozer, others see a pick ax,  others have seen a pen to write the truth on the wall) 

5.       Whatever tool you see, use it by faith to take down the wall around your heart.  You should feel some freedom come to your emotions.  Pay attention to anything that you might see on the other side of the wall.

Victorious Prayer Testimony! (Breaking Soul Ties)

The following is a testimony from a woman who used our Breaking Soul Ties tool.  Read her
testimony and then press into the Holy Spirit to see if there are any ungodly soul ties that you need to break.  Go HERE to read about how to break Ungodly Soul Ties.

"Thank you for your post on Soul Ties.  I have a friend that I'm not friendly with any more that I broke unhealthy ties with. After reading your post the Lord gave me a dream of her that she had something of mine. I tried to take it back but she wouldn't let me have it back. When I woke up the Lord showed me that there was still a tie that needed to be broken with her and another gal that we were friends with. So, I broke more soul ties with both of them. And would you believe it, I ran into one of them today. It's amazing how God protects us." - DR

This is exactly what we love to hear. Glory to God for setting His people free!

Overcoming Powerlessness

There have been more than a few times in my life when I have felt powerless over a situation.  It is
frustrating and makes me feel helpless when I am in a position in which I have no control.

As a child I felt powerless. My dad and step mom’s divorce made me feel powerless and vulnerable.

I have felt powerless as an adult during a time when several friends rejected me.

I feel powerless when my children hurt and I can't stop the pain.

Sometimes fear gets the better of me and I feel powerless against it.

Powerlessness seems really big and it paralyzes us...  BUT powerlessness is simply a lie from the enemy. 

The devil, who is the father of lies and the master manipulator, wants us to feel that we are
powerless.  It is then that he makes us impotent against the kingdom of darkness. He wants us to feel like we are banging our head against a wall and have no choice but to submit to the circumstances we are in.

The problem is that our tiny minds cannot fathom how there could be an answer to the overwhelmingness of the wall we are banging our heads against.  How could there really be an answer to the powerlessness I felt about my parents’ divorce?  Wasn’t it the truth that I really was powerless when my friends rejected me? 

When we let powerlessness paralyze us, we let the lie be bigger than the One we serve.  This lie needs to come down once and for all.  The Truth is: if Jesus is truly on the throne of our lives - there is nothing that is impossible for us.

It is time to get our power back!

Steps to Wholeness

When we believe the lie that we are powerless, we must process it by taking that lie to the throne of God and exchange it for the Truth.  We must FACE IT, ERASE IT and REPLACE IT!

Face it!
When we get to the point of feeling powerless, we usually get angry.  Sometimes I get furious!  It is when this feeling arises that we need to deal with it in a healthy way.   Face the fact that you feel powerless about your situation.  Bring it out into the light and be OK with the fact that you don’t have everything under control.  Ask the Holy Spirit to help you identify why you are feeling helpless.

When you find the lie – we need to take it to the throne of God in prayer.

Erase it!
Forgive the people who are making you feel powerless.

Taking the lie to God – out loud pray:  “Lord I renounce the lie that I am powerless about this situation/person”

Then ask “What is Your truth?”

Listen to the still small voice inside of you.  Possibly listen for a Bible verse to come to mind.

Replace it!

When you hear God’s truth about the situation, take the lie of powerlessness off the throne and put God’s words on it by declaring them out loud.  “I declare that I am not powerless because God says …”

Becoming Like Him
Think about Jesus on the cross.  It would seem that He would feel quite powerless being nailed to a tree.  But that is not how Jesus saw it.  He knew that there was something being accomplished through the pain.  He was not paralyzed at all.  The Truth was that He was setting all of creation free.  He didn't care what others thought of Him or how many of His friends rejected Him.  Jesus had an assignment from the Father. He did not let the lie of powerlessness keep Him from accomplishing His task.

Let God’s truth be bigger than the lie you are believing about feeling powerless.

The truth that displaced the powerlessness I felt about my parents’ divorce was that God was going to turn it for my good, their mistakes did not have to define my life.

The truth that displaced the powerlessness I felt about the rejection of my friends was that all I needed was God’s approval.  He asked me to forgive them in the meantime and promised reconciliation.

The truth that displaces the powerlessness I feel when my children hurt is that I can take them to the throne of God and help them overcome the lies and be healed like the following situation:

One time when my son Joel was playing little league football, he was being bullied by a bigger kid.  The bigger kid would tackle him and then lay on top of him while he said some mean things.  This made Joel feel paralyzed and powerless.  Joel is a good kid and didn’t understand why this bigger kid was coming after him.  We used the FACE IT, ERASE IT, REPLACE IT method above and this is how God helped Joel process his feeling of powerlessness.

Joel acknowledged that he felt powerless against this boy and was honest about his feelings.

Joel forgave the boy in prayer and renounced the lie that he was powerless against the boy and asked God for His truth.

He was quiet for a few minutes and said, “Mom, I hear that he has ‘parent problems.’”  This changed Joel’s perspective completely.  He began to pray for the boy and his home life instead of feeling powerless against him.  This made Joel feel POWERFUL!

You see, Joel was not powerless – he had the power to make a difference.  I was not powerless as a parent – I took Joel to his Heavenly Father to be set free.

You are not powerless – you CAN do something about your situation.  Put Jesus on the throne of your problem and let His truth set you free!

Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties - Victorious Prayer Tool Box

Soul ties can be good or bad. They are formed when 2 or more persons become bonded together in the realm of the soul.  It is the uniting together of two souls in either a verbal or non-verbal covenant.  Soul ties can be God ordained as with a husband and wife.  There can also be ungodly soul ties, when someone makes a covenant with a person outside of God’s will.

While Godly soul ties are good for us, ungodly soul ties can hold us back and cause us to stumble.  The enemy likes to use everything he can to cause us to misstep.  When we have made covenants with people that have not been authorized by God, we create an ungodly soul tie which can
cause confusion and destruction. The enemy is given license to influence us toward darkness.

Mark Virkler explains soul ties in his book Prayers that Heal the Heart: “Ungodly soul ties stem from covenant or contractual relationships that pass sin energy from one person to another.”

For instance, if we have a soul tie to a past boyfriend/girlfriend the ungodly soul tie can cause doubt or a fear of rejection to be projected on present-day God-ordained relationships.

If we have a soul tie with a controlling family member, we can sometimes make decisions to please that person instead of pleasing God.  This fleshly influence can cause us to make wrong decisions not based on Godly counsel.

When we submit to false teaching under a church or ministry, we are agreeing in covenant with them.  This false teaching can cause us confusion and even a veil over our minds making it harder to see God’s truth.

When we have sexual relations with a person, we have made a non-verbal covenant. If that sexual relationship was outside of marriage – we need to break the soul tie.

If we have gone into business with a person outside of God’s will, we have become unequally yoked by making a verbal/contractual covenant with that person, and that soul tie will need to be broken.

I have seen many people set free through the breaking of soul ties.  One man felt his controlling sister was always whispering in his ear what she expected from him.  He broke the ungodly soul tie and the torment stopped.

I have seen other men break soul ties with the women they have seen in pornography, which has yielded a much closer relationship with their wives.

One particular woman and daughter had attended a very religious almost cult-like church when the daughter was young.  Breaking the soul tie with the church and its leadership brought them great freedom and their understanding of God’s word blossomed.

Sometimes breaking a soul tie with something that is an addiction can be helpful.  Like breaking a soul tie with alcohol or drugs or food.  I know these are substances and not ‘souls’ but there is a demonic spirit behind addiction.  When you break the soul tie – you are renouncing the hold that the evil spirit has on you.

Here is a beginning list of ungodly soul ties that need to be broken:
·         Abusive relationships
·         Ungodly sexual relationship, lust, pornography, infatuation or any erotic joining. Matt. 5:27-28
·         Co-Dependent/Controlling relationship
·         Perverted, twisted family ties
·         Occult involvement
·         Ungodly vows
·         Addictions
·         Unhealthy/Obsessed relationship (this could be a famous person that one doesn’t even know)
·         False teaching
·         Unequally yoked partnerships

Steps to Wholeness

Because the blood of Jesus came to set us free, it is very easy to break an ungodly soul tie.  Simply pray and ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind where the ungodly soul ties need to be broken.  Then pray this prayer out loud.

“I ask forgiveness for having an ungodly soul tie with _____________”
“I break all soul ties with ___________ and I sever all influence from _____________.”
“I give back to _______________ the things that are his/hers.”

“I take back the things that are mine and I wash them in the blood of Jesus.”
"Father God I pray that you would remove all twisted thinking I believed - replace it with wiring from the Holy Spirit according to the Kingdom of Heaven."
"Please give me back my soul. In Jesus Name."

When you are finished breaking soul ties, remember this is essentially doing spiritual warfare so you will need to seal up the victory by pray the Sealing Up Prayer found HERE.

You Lead, I'll Follow - Overcoming Fear

The need to control comes naturally to us in our fallen state.  It comes from fear.  We have a deep
need to feel secure.  This fear goes all the way back to Adam and Eve in the garden.  The first sin came from the fear that our Creator didn't really have our best intentions at heart.

The serpent convinced Eve that she wasn't really safe.  Satan's words "Did God really say?..." caused her to doubt God's goodness and His capability of keeping her protected. (Gen 3:1)
Fear is a lie.  It is False Evidence Appearing Real.

Finding the root of a lie, is the beginning of overcoming it.

If Eve would have believed God's words instead of doubting them, she would not have been deceived.  She should have said to herself, "I have seen the Creator's goodness all of this time, I have no reason to doubt His words." She might have saved herself from committing that first sin.

The enemy uses the same thing on us today.  He is constantly trying to get us to doubt God.  "Did God really say that He would protect you from financial ruin?  Did God really say
that He had the right job for you?  Did God really say that He had a spouse lined up for you?  Did God really say that He would carry you through the valley? Did God really say that He had good plans to prosper you?"

Believing these lies causes us to make egregious mistakes.  When we make decisions based out of fear, we can cause catastrophic harm to our lives and those around us.  We feel the need to control in order to feel safe.  But the decisions we make from our human viewpoint can be small minded because we are not seeing the whole picture from where God sits.

God loves you so completely and fully that anything that He leads you to do or any time that He asks you to wait is because He has the perfect solution for your life.  He desires for you to trust Him.  He wants to fulfill the desires of your heart.  He simply KNOWS what the devil is scheming against you.  He KNOWS the path that will take you to the highest heights.  He can lead you to make the best decisions at any point because He KNOWS what lies ahead.

God loves you so perfectly that it should cast all fear out of you!

One must learn to come to God with every decision for His perfect will to be done in our lives.  This is how we live overcoming lives - we lay down our need to control and let God lead.

When we walk in fear and make decisions based on lies, we are essentially telling God that we will lead our own lives and don't need His input because His words are not trustworthy.

As Believers this is completely the wrong way to walk through life.  There is a higher way to walk.  A fearless way to walk that requires us to pull down the lie that Satan is tempting us to believe.  It requires that we BELIEVE GOD'S WORDS.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
God's word is FULL of verses like this.  It is important that we get to know what He says in His word so that we can come against fear with God's truth.  It is when we believe these words and not doubt them that we can let God lead our lives and direct our paths. It is then that we say "You lead, I'll follow" that we are truly safe.

Overcoming fear requires that we find the lie we are believing to uproot it from our hearts.

When fear rises in you, the first step is to ask God "What is the lie that I am believing?"
When you recognize the lie, renounce it outloud in prayer. (i.e. I renounce the lie that I'm never going to find a job. I renounce the lie that my friend is going to abandon me.)

Then ask the Lord for the truth.  Listen quietly in your heart and His truth will bubble up.  Or He'll bring a Bible verse to mind.

Then you must believe God's words.  Let His words be louder than the lie of fear.

Let Him lead you with truth instead of being led by fear.  There is a greater peace than you have ever known when you let God lead!

Overcoming Bitterness

Bitterness can cause your life to become frozen.  We become bitter because of anger (unmet expectations) and disappointment at being treated unfairly.  We resent the feeling of powerlessness.  Bitterness often causes one to lash out at others when they feel powerless.  It is a reaction to a perceived prison.

I say ‘perceived’ prison because the truth is that if you are in Christ, you have a Rescuer.  If you are a believer and follower of Jesus you never have to walk in a prison again, even if you are literally in one.

Paul's Prison

Paul was put in prison several times.  But during each of those periods in prison he accomplished much for

the Kingdom of God.   He ministered to those around him (Phil 1:13), he organized his ministry (2 Tim 4:11),  he wrote letters to churches that we still read 2000 years later.

Because Paul knew that prison could not really hold him, he treated it like an opportunity.  If he had become bitter at being in prison he would not have written over half of the New Testament.  If Paul had become bitter he would have become FROZEN and unusable to the Lord.  Instead of allowing the injustice to render him powerless, he used it to become powerful.

When we are treated unfairly we have choices.  We can ask God for the grace to forgive and move forward, or we can let the injustice cause us to get stuck in a victim mode.

Jesus's Crucifixion

If we look at how Jesus handled the injustice he suffered at the cross we see that he walked in complete forgiveness through all of the events leading up to His crucifixion.  Think about this:  there is no one who suffered more injustice that the Son of God who lived a sinless life.  He was beaten, thrown in prison, unfairly tried for something he didn’t do, abandoned by His closest friends, spat on, ridiculed and then crucified on a tree that He created.

No one has more of a reason for bitterness than Jesus.

And yet… He said, “Father forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34)

Jesus walked in complete forgiveness.  Though they tried to put Him in prison, His heart and mind were always free.  He knew the tomb was temporary.  He knew resurrection was just ahead and the reward that came with the resurrection would result in many more prisons swinging open because He laid down His life for His friends.  His pain would ultimately bring redemption to many.  He was not powerless - He was powerful.

Personal Injustice

The same is true of you.

As a follower of Christ, your pain and suffering is meant to bring redemption to others.  Because when you learn to overcome the schemes of your enemy, you gain authority in that very area to crush him under your feet.

I have suffered many injustices in my lifetime.  My mother died of cancer when I was 4 years old.  I was abandoned by my father at the age of 8.  I’ve been rejected by close friends and church family who believed lies spoken about me.  Betrayed by “friends” who have sabotaged my ministry plans.  I have plenty of reasons to be bitter.

But my goal is to be Christ-like.  “I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.” (Phil 1:9-10)

To KNOW Christ means that I must KNOW Him in His sufferings.  I must become like him in his death.  I must die to my right to demand justice and offer forgiveness to my persecutors instead.   God is able to bring about justice but it must be done according to His Kingdom – not according to my emotions.

No matter how unjustly I have been treated, I must always remember that in my lifetime I have treated others unfairly.  I need forgiveness myself for how I have treated others.  And Jesus said “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”  (Matt 6:14-15)

It is forgiving others that will release you out of your bitterness.  Applying Christ’s answer to bitterness will release you from your prison and help your life to thaw from its frozenness.

A simple but profound way to overcome bitterness is to understand what was going on inside the person who hurt you.  Most times the people who hurt you are simply acting out of their own pain and ignorance.  Jesus understood that his persecutors simply did not understand what they were doing to the One who had come to rescue them.  That understanding enabled Jesus to forgive.

My bitterness about my mother’s early death was aimed at God for allowing it to happen.  When I allowed God’s Truth to be applied to my anger, I understood this:  We live in a fallen world, and because we do life isn’t always a perfect storybook.  But He is big enough to see us through.  I had to forgive God for allowing a tragedy in my story.  The truth was, that the sin of the fallen world cause my mother’s death, not God.  He was the one who would sustain me through the pain.

My bitterness about being abandoned by my earthly father was swallowed up by the truth that my Heavenly Father is well able to make up the difference of being fatherless.  When I asked the Lord why my earthly father abandoned me, God gave me understanding that he simply did not have the skills to be my father, and I ended up being better off.  It was much easier to forgive and let go when God gave me understanding about what was going on inside of my earthly father.

When my friends and church family rejected me, I was able to say Lord forgive them because the Lord gave me understanding that I too had rejected people and was in need of forgiveness. 

I am not powerless. Understanding gives me wisdom.  Forgiveness makes me powerful.  

If we allow it… all pain can be processed through the filter of Christ and bring us authority to comfort others and set them free.  

Understanding and forgiveness without condition are the keys.  The following steps will equip you to process some of your pain.  You are not powerless.  God gives us POWER to overcome!



Ask the Holy Spirit to help you identify the root of your bitterness.


When you know where the seed of bitterness was planted, forgive those who hurt you.

If you have trouble forgiving, ask the Holy Spirit if you are believing a lie.  Listen.

If you are believing a lie: 

Renounce the lie out loud (i.e. I renounce the lie that my father’s sin ruined my life.)

Ask the Holy Spirit for the truth.  Listen. (i.e. You may hear ‘I AM the author of your story – his sin does not define it.’)

Declare that truth in place of the lie.

If your bitterness comes from a trauma like rape or molestation or witnessing a traumatic event.  Forgiveness does not rely on your feelings - forgive by an act of your will.  Then ask the Lord where He was while you were being traumatized. Allow the Lord to show you where He was at when the trauma was happening.  Ask Him the questions that you have.  “Why did you allow this?”  “Why didn’t you stop this?”  “What was this person thinking?”

Father God welcomes your questions – He is very willing to give you the Truth in order to set you free. Be open to hearing His Truth.


Overcoming bitterness is like pulling out a weed or a thorn from your heart.  You need the thorns pulled out of your heart so that it can become whole.  Remember you need to plant something good after you pull out the bitter weed/thorn.  Ask God to plant the TREE OF LIFE in place of the root of bitterness.  Ask Him to plant the Truth in place of the Lie you were believing.

Ask Him to seal up everything with the blood of Christ.  Return to use this tool as often as you need.  Healing and wholeness comes in layers.

Also: Bitterness can be a generational sin.  Check out THIS POST to break the generational sin of bitterness.

Breaking Through the Walls of Rejection

I used to be very good at building walls of protection around myself. Abandoned by my father at age eight, I learned the craft of building walls around my heart to help me feel safe.

Honestly, building walls around your heart doesn’t really keep you safe, it simply keeps other people out. It messes with your ability for intimacy with other human beings. It creates a fear of loss and rejection.

Rejection and perceived rejection became the foundation on which I built my life. I learned to hide it well. I learned to pretend I wasn’t hurting and to compartmentalize my pain.

The truth is, though I knew how to mask it, my heart was constantly in pain. I was never taught how to correctly process the rejection of my father through the truth of my Heavenly Father.

No one knew how to help me to deal with such deep pain. Though my father was not around, I definitely had family who loved me. I was certainly safe. But the lie I had bought from

the enemy kept me from believing the truth that I was loved and safe. My foundation was built on rejection, not on Christ.

By the time I hit my late 20s, I had experienced rejection by many other people. I was in so much pain that my fear of rejection was interfering with God’s call on my life. I was called to disciple and mentor but I had such a fear of rejection that my heart would feel like it was going to pop out of my chest whenever I had to say something hard to someone. I loathed having to say anything that might cause me to be rejected by another person.


There were two things that happened simultaneously that helped me overcome the fear of rejection and I want to share those with you who might be struggling with the pain of rejection.

First of all, I read a book called “

Dealing With the Praise and Rejection of Men

” by Bob Sorge. It was a fantastic truth that set me free. How could I let the rejection of men define my life? They are created beings. It is what my Creator thinks of me that defines me. God’s opinion about me must be bigger than my fellow man’s opinion about me.

I believed the lie that I was unworthy and my story was over with because my father rejected me. But the truth is my story belongs to God. An earthly man does not get to decide who I am.

(As a side note – enjoying the praise of men is just as deadly as receiving the rejection of men. Both the praise and rejection of men come from the same evil root: You care too much what people think of you.)

Secondly, there will be people who reject you for the rest of your life. If you are a true believer in Jesus Christ, rejection will always be a part of your life. If the world rejected Jesus who was perfect, the world will also reject you.

The trick is, not to be offended by that rejection. Jesus was not offended when Peter denied and rejected Him. Jesus didn’t build a wall between Peter and Himself when Peter failed to stand with Jesus in His darkest hour.

 Jesus NEVER builds walls. You are always welcome to approach Him. The Christ-like way of handling rejection is to let it slide off of your back and not take offense to it.

Christ knew His identity was in the Heavenly Father. Jesus had His Father’s approval. So when earthly men rejected Jesus, He was able to forgive them immediately because the rejection of people did not define Him.


If you suffer from the ‘fear of rejection,' let me help you to take a step towards wholeness.

Ask the Lord for wisdom about where the root of your rejection lies. After praying this prayer be still and listen to your spirit. Let God bring memories to your mind.  Let Him bring up a person in your spirit who rejected you. By faith and an act of your will forgive the people who hurt you.

THEN ask the Lord to show you what lies you are believing and pull those weeds out of your heart by renouncing the lies out loud.  Ask God for His truth to replace the lie.  Listen closely and have faith that He wants to give you His truth.  It's the truth that sets you free!

Let me give you an example:  My friend Piper had been bullied in school and it caused her to fear the rejection of men. She was incredibly fearful when talking to people.  She feared they would think whatever she said was stupid and then they would reject her.  Piper had to revisit the bullying incident in her spirit.  She forgave the bullies.  Asked God what the lie was and renounced it. (I renounce the lie that all people think I'm stupid.)  Then she asked God for the truth and He spoke to her heart and said "I don't create anything stupid.  Every person has a brilliance in the area that I choose. I think you are perfect."  Piper had to learn to let God's words that she was "created with a brilliance and that she was perfect in His sight" be bigger than the words of the bullies.  When the lies of the enemy were replaced with God's truth,  Piper found a deep peace and was able to talk with people without having a pit in her stomach of the fear of rejection.

When you plant His truth deep in your heart and let God's words be bigger than the words of men and your first step toward wholeness is complete.

Breaking Generational Curses - Victorious Prayer Tool Box

Exodus 20:4 "You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 6 but showing love to a thousand [generations] of those who love me and keep my commandments.

When we worship idols such as 'lust', 'hatred', 'witchcraft', 'fear', etc. that sin is passed down to the third and fourth generation.  If it is not broken
by applying the forgiveness of the cross to the sin the cycle repeats.

It is very easy to recognize sins that are generational because the previous and/or subsequent generations struggle with the same strongholds:  worry, lust, fear, etc.

In my experience, generational sins come from only blood relatives.  I am adopted.  Every generational sin that I have had to break off has originated from my natural mother and father, not my adoptive parents.  In 16 years of my Journey to Wholeness, the Holy Spirit has never pointed toward the sins of my adoptive parents, it has always been my generational blood line.

Generational curses are lined out in Leviticus 26:40-42  “If they shall confess their iniquity, and the iniquity of their fathers, with their trespass which they trespassed against me, and that also they have walked contrary to me...I will remember my covenant with Jacob and my covenant with Isaac and my covenant with Abraham, and I will remember the land."

In Daniel 9, Daniel prays for the generational sin of his forefathers.  As he prays he identifies with the sinfulness of past generations and even though he was just a boy when those sins were committed he uses the phrase "we have sinned and done wrong."

Other verses about how generational curses are formed: Isaiah 53:4-5, Exodus 20:3-5,  Psalm 31:10, Matthew 24:12-13.  Go HERE to read a more in depth understanding about generational curses.

It is quite easy, because of the blood of Christ, to break a generational sin. 
Following the Repent - Rebuke - Replace method is easy to use and easy to remember. Whenever you recognize a generational sin simply pray this prayer in faith and it will be broken..  I have posted a list of common generational curses below.

Helpful Hint:  You need to be as specific as possible.  Do not shoot a shotgun prayer over generations sins.  Use a sniper rifle instead and be specific.  Scroll down - the tool is after the list of curses...

Here is a list of possible Generational Curses:
Bound Emotions
Orphan Lifestyle
Emotional or Co-Dependency
Financial Problems
Identity Issues
Mental Problems
Not Motivated/Sloth
Religious Bondage
Sexual Bondage

Breaking Generational Sin Tool

Repent –

“God I ask your forgiveness for the sin of ___________ .

I forgive my parents and every past generation for the sin of ___________.

I ask You, Father God, to forgive every past generation for the sin of ____________ .

Rebuke –
I break it off of my generational lines both maternal and paternal all the way back down to Adam.

Replace -
I replace this sin with LIFE and a generational blessing of ____________ (opposite of curse) In Jesus Name!

Release - 
I pray for the release of every generational blessing that has been held up because of these sins.  May they fall upon me and every future generation.

Breaking off generational sins is a type of spiritual warfare, so be sure to pray the Sealing Up Prayer found HERE.