I have a plausible theory. I think Adam and Eve were co-dependent.
Let me lay the ground work. Codependency is relying on something or someone other than God as your source of value and identity. Since the fall in the Garden, we all have the innate desperate need of a savior. We instinctively know that our souls are ‘naked’ and every human being has to deal with the same lies that the enemy told Eve. You are not safe, and you do not have value. When Eve believed those lies, she was duped into believing that we must ‘save’ ourselves. This is why she ate from the tree that was forbidden. She believed the lie that God was not a trustworthy Savior.
Of course, they realized their error right away. For as soon as they had turned to ‘self-sufficiency’ as their savior, their world came tumbling down. This beautiful paradise could no longer be their home. The deep abiding peace they had lived in was slowly engulfed in fear and hardship. God had a plan to redeem them, but He would have to cut them off from the Garden of Eden so they would not partake of the Tree of Life and thereby living eternally in a state of fallenness.
Adam and Eve heard God’s plan for redemption when he cursed the serpent. He said, “And I will put enmity (or animosity) between you and the woman, and between your offspring
and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel.”
The offspring that God was referring to foreshadowed Christ coming to earth as a human to be crucified and crushing sin and death in the process. The fulfillment of His words didn’t happen for 4000 years. That is a very LONG time to see a prophecy come forth!
Adam nor Eve could have conceived of the coming of Christ. My theory, based on the fruit of the first family, is that they believed it would be their first born son, Cain (their offspring) that would crush the head of the serpent so that they could return to their beautiful Garden and the deep peacefulness of close fellowship with God.
I further believe that they raised their son Cain to also think that he was the savior. You have seen families in your lifetime who have lifted up one of the family members to be the rescuer. The star athlete gives the rest of the family an identity. Or the eldest in a family is counted on for their protection or provision. When we get our identity, protection or provision from anyone or anything but God we are using a false idol to be our savior.
I believe Adam and Eve put Cain on a pedestal as the savior, and Cain believed them. You can see his arrogance in his fruit. In Genesis 4, God chastises Cain and rebukes him for not ‘doing what is right.’ God further warns Cain that sin is crouching at his door and must master it. Cain did not humble himself after this. Instead, he lured his brother to a field and murdered him.
Instead of God being on the throne of Cain’s heart, Cain was sitting on the throne in his own heart and in the hearts of his parents. This is the simple definition of co-dependency, someone or something other than God being on the throne.
OK – hard truth coming!
The Church in many ways is co-dependent. We count on our pastor to rescue us. Or we put a picture perfect fantasy life on the throne and say “If I could only live that life, I would be rescued.” We look to our spouse to give us value. We look to food or money to comfort us. These are all false idols on the thrones in our heart. They will never satisfy. They will only lead to heartache as it did in the first family.
The true Rescuer came to earth and they crucified Him on a cross. He was full of grace and truth. He rose again from the dead and is still our Rescuer.
Jesus has everything we need. He is the One who gives us our identity. He is the One who values us. We have no need for any other human, or fantasy, or money, or false comforters to rescue us.
We must learn to trust in the One who is seated on the throne and let Him replace all other false rescuers. It is only then that we will stop needing to constantly be rescued. The True Rescuer awaits your cry for help.
Steps to Wholeness
If you recognize that you have a rescuer other than Jesus your first step to wholeness is simply confessing it to the Lord. Maybe you ARE the person trying to be a rescuer, you also need to repent.
1) Confess to God that you have a false idol on the throne.
2) Command the idol (mountain) to be cast into the sea. (Sometimes I picture kicking the pedestal out from underneath the idol.)
3) Ask Jesus to sit on the throne of your heart in every area.
Keep Jesus on the throne by asking the Lord for conviction whenever you look to something or someone else to be your rescuer.
Co-Dependency may be generational.
If you do a really deep work of dethroning idols - it is probably a good idea to pray the Sealing Up Prayer
when you are done.