I know this is going to sound foreign to some of you, but hear me out, because God wants to set some of you free!
Some of us have made friends with the spirit of torment, and it’s TIME TO BREAK UP!
As I have coached and counseled people to emotional freedom, I have found we often believe several lies causing us to make the spirit of torment our friend. I know that sounds crazy, but it is the SAME THING as self-pity. There is something about feeling sorry for ourselves we wrongly believe gives us power. When the door in our life is open to the spirit of torment, we can learn to use that spirit in manipulative ways to bring us something we want.
The lies that open the door to a spirit of torment can come when we are children; we learn if we are in torment we get special treatment. We learn if we are hurting, people pay special attention to us. Sometimes it’s the only kind of love children can get, the spawn of negative reinforcement. Children learn to make their torment known because it’s the only time they feel comforted and special.
As children, we can learn that being tormented gives us power. This spills over into adulthood.
We sometimes welcome torment as a way of pampering ourselves. We think I had a bad night of torment, so I’ll comfort myself with chocolate, or by checking out for a few hours on Netflix, or by posting something on Facebook to seek attention. I’ll go on a little shopping spree because I’ve been so tormented lately.
So we tolerate torment because it gives us the power to pamper ourselves, and to gain some attention.
THIS. IS. A. LIE! God loves to pamper His children. He doesn’t need an excuse to pamper us. Neither do we need an excuse to pamper ourselves. It’s OK to have chocolate, Netflix, and shopping without it being a “reward” for your suffering. But, it’s not okay to use “your suffering” as an excuse to gain attention.
At times we can think that torment makes us holy. We wrongly believe we’re so tormented because God has a “special plan” for us. An example would be: “God” wakes me up in the middle of the night and gives me prayer assignments. In all actuality, God does not “torment” special people. The Bible says “…[God] grants sleep to those he loves.” Psalm 127:2. A spirit of torment may wake you up in the night, and GOD may take the opportunity to give you something to pray about. But, if you aren’t getting the sleep you need, and it is regularly causing you a lack of healthy sleep – then IT IS a spirit of torment.
I remember one time a pastor telling me he was constantly being awakened by God in the middle of the night, and God would speak to him. Sometimes he was so wide awake that he would go for walks in the middle of the night.
He felt God had chosen him to download many things in the night, and he felt special. But, he was suffering for it in the daytime.
He was constantly tired and grumpy. He was running on fumes, but he believed it was God, so he asked his family to pay the price that he just wasn’t going to be 100%. I was able to share with this pastor this didn’t feel like God. God wants to grant sleep to those he loves, and He is not a hard taskmaster. I thought the enemy might be tormenting him. He believed me, and we broke off that spirit. Then, the pastor’s life returned to normal.
Torment doesn’t make you holy or special. Torment is just torment – it’s an evil spirit. If you are a son or daughter of God, you have authority over it. A Father who loves His children doesn’t WANT to see His children in torment. He can pamper us, and comfort us, and let us feel loved without using a spirit of torment. God DOES NOT want His children to be tormented!
If this resonates with you, if you have used a spirit of torment as a way of receiving love or comfort, if you have thought a spirit of torment made you holier – it is time to BREAK UP with this spirit!
Always remember, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” – 2 Timothy 1:7. The spirit of torment is not these things!
STEPS TO WHOLENESS:
1. Break off Generational Torment using this prayer: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1niq_LCuoYUZJS2ubC6X08k75HAaxqkJl/view?usp=sharing
2. Untangle yourself from this torment using this prayer: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Fa23EjPGUNRqz5Ou4oG1R-GlsXh2B1GG/view?usp=sharing